As a way for me to get back into the swing of writing, I’ve decided to start the 30 Day Writing Challenge which are a series of prompts to write about. There are different versions of this on Pinterest but I picked one that was the most stimulating for me. Since some prompts are very short, I decided that I would add an extra comic or drawing here and there or maybe elaborate more on some topics. I hope you guys enjoy and feel free to do the challenge along with me if you want 🙂
Brace yourself mages, it’s extreme story time.
A friend of mine asked me this question well over a year ago yet I still remember the context behind it as if it just happened, and let me tell you… it wasn’t exactly a pretty one. Let’s set the scene, shall we?
It was a December school day and it just so happened that on that particular day, I had to attend a field trip to another school with my French class. Being able to skip all my other lessons and visiting another school made it seem like such a perfect day. I had a great time experiencing life as a French student and their classes were also really interesting (they actually had a Computer Science class!) so overall, the day went extremely well. When we arrived back in our school, I was so eager to catch up with my friends and tell them all about my cool experiences. When I came up to them, the first thing (from what I remember anyway) my friend asked was, “Why are you so happy?” in a leering tone.
Immediately, my brain just stopped in its tracks and wondered, “what the hell went wrong while I was gone?”
You see, I didn’t get to say goodbye to my friends before we left for the school trip and if I did get the chance to meet them that morning then maybe things would’ve gone differently in the afternoon. Something terribly upsetting had happened to one of my friends (I won’t go into detail on what it was) and I didn’t get to learn about it until after the question had already stabbed into my soul.
During the time it took for the question to be asked and explained (literally split seconds), I could actually feel my heart crack a little bit. I didn’t know what to say. I didn’t know why that question had been asked. I didn’t know how to react. I didn’t know why me being happy seemed so atrocious to my friend at that moment that it actually made me question myself, “should I not be happy at all?”
There are a few reasons why so many things happened inside of me all at once when my friend posed that question. At that time, I was facing the pressure of several deadlines, tension between my friend group and the stress from mock exams. A lot of things or situations I encountered at that time seemed to be another problem I had to deal with so that’s why my immediate reaction to that question was the dread of having to face another problem. I thought that maybe I would be able to count that day as one of my “highs” where I realized that there are amazing moments despite all the bad stuff going on. That question just toppled over that thought in a flash.
However, when my friend explained the reason why they had asked that question, I did understand the extremely heavy weight of what had happened to them and I did sympathize with them. I acknowledged that the situation they were in was incredibly stressful and maybe that’s why seeing me so happy suddenly seemed so out of place for them that they just asked the question without a second thought. When I finally understood their side of things, the negative thoughts inside me died down. Yet, I will never forget how that question made me feel.
Now, the point of this story isn’t to argue whether or not my friend’s situation was bad enough for them to ask me such a question with an inconsiderate tone. I’m also not here to debate why they even asked me that in the first place. My point is, without any context whatsoever, that question hurt me. Key phrase is: “without any context whatsoever”.
This may be stupidly simple for me to say but the fact is that, unless other people tell you, you have no idea what they’re going through or what they have gone through. You and I don’t know how each other feel or what we think unless we show it through our words and actions. And because of this, I just want to remind everyone to always be extremely careful with what we communicate to others because we usually have no idea what we’re going through or have gone through. Saying hurtful things or conveying them in a bad manner may be harmless to you or you may not even realize that you said anything that could hurt them but it will affect the other person. Sure, you may be in a terrible mood or something horrible just happened to you, but just try not to be toxic to your surroundings – meaning the people around you. It just doesn’t seem to be the best way of resolving anything.
I understand that the world is a cruel place to be in. Sometimes, it can get extremely difficult to keep being civil or nice to others especially on days that just don’t go right. But I guess all I’m hoping for that there are some people out there who still manage to do just that. So now, all I ask for anyone reading this is to try your best to sincerely smile to at least a few people you meet today. A sincere smile, even without any context, can still be a shining light in the darkness.
Thank you for reading and I look forward to seeing you guys in my next post! 😀
~ Ro (little Purple.Mage)